「我是否正走在人生目標的道途上?」
這個問題,是這十年來,我的個案與學員最常問我的問題之一。
接著,他們會問「我想知道我的潛能、生命意義、願景、藍圖、使命…」
一連串的大哉問
有趣的是,在個別諮詢或工作坊當中探索,獲得了答案,但又對自己質疑
第三個問題就又會問「我能嗎?…可是現在的工作….」。
這是大部分的人都會遇到的狀況,
就要透過一些時間,往自己的裡內下功夫,以獲得真正對生命的明白!
今天是十月一日,一個新的創造能量到來,
有些同時性的發生,關於人生目的/生命目標的探索及前進。
前兩天,跟朋友一同去參加了「阿德勒國際研討會」,談的是「個體心理學的過去、現在與未來」。
阿德勒一樣也強調人對自然宇宙的情懷,與大我連結的意義感。
我覺得很開心也很感動,呼應了我心裡所想的,不管是心理學的研究、諮詢典範的轉移、靈性領域的發展,到2011的年代,都是殊途同歸。一樣又回歸到自然、回到生命的本質,追尋內在的意義,以及對於人、環境、周圍一切的關心。
稍微簡介一下Adler阿德勒
當代心理諮詢強調個人主觀意識與經驗的重要性,更認為追求未來目標與尋求超越的力量大於過去經驗的束縛,並且傾向以系統性的觀點看待個人困擾與性格、社會之間的關連,這一切可以說是奠基於阿德勒的個體心理學。
阿德勒(Alfred Adler,1870~1937)是著名的精神分析學者,也是個體心理學的創始者,其於1912年發表論文「神經質性格」,推出自己的理論學說—將人的慾求擴大至個人能力、情感、態度與社會興趣之追求,奠定個體心理學以及日後人文心理學運動的基礎。阿德勒學說的影響力貫穿整個二十世紀諮詢心理學的發展,直至二十一世紀的今日,阿德勒治療學派在歐美各國仍持續蓬勃發展,例如美國的北美阿德勒心理學學會(North American Society of Adlerian Psychology,以下簡稱NASAP)、英國的不列顛阿德勒學會(British Adlerian Society) 、奧地利的奧地利個體心理學學會(Austrian Society for Individual Psychology)等皆持續提供專業訓練發展和認證碩博士學位,並且在臨床心理治療、兒童青少年諮詢、家族治療、藝術諮詢、多元文化諮詢、人格心理學、家庭與親職教育等領域受到廣泛的認可和推崇。
我整理出阿德勒強調的幾個概念,包括有:
- 社會興趣、社會情懷
- 生命任務:對工作的責任、社會連結合作的責任、愛的任務(性、發展克服親密、自我尊重&尊重別人)
- 自卑超越、克服困難、慶祝、找到喜悅
- 重視早期記憶:早期記憶的分析、解釋
- 生活型態、意義的創造
- 對於婦女&兒童教育的努力、親職教育
一、勇氣心理學:阿德勒觀點的健康社會生活
The Psychology of Courage:An Adlerian Handbook for Healthy Social Living 作者:楊瑞珠、艾倫.米勒林、馬克.布雷根。原文作者:Julia Yang、Alan Milliren、Mark Blagen 譯者:蒙光俊、簡君倫、郭明仁 出版社:張老師文化 出版日期:2010年09月30日
二、遊走童年:追溯童年記憶重造自我
What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It 作者:凱文.李曼原文作者:Dr. Kevin Leman譯者:黃耀禮出版社:中國主日學。出版日期:2011年07月19日
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下面這一篇是田安琪老師分享的天使訊息,談生命目的首要:在療癒、學習、成長與轉化
烏瑞爾天使長九月份訊息
目的、潛力、可能性與力量
Purpose, Potential, Possibility and Power
September 2011 Monthly Message
烏瑞爾天使長透過Jennifer Hoffman傳訊
文章出處http://www.urielheals.com/Messages.html
田安琪翻譯 歡迎轉載
「什麼是我人生的目的?」這是個案經常問我的問題
因為他們覺得若自己能活在天命的道途上
那麼他們就不會有當時遭遇的困難了
然而即使有這些困難 他們某種層面仍在天命的道途上
我們傾向於把生命目的看成是某些固著的、精準的、不會變化的事物
看成是一條玄妙的路徑
我們在上面運用所有自信與技能去掌握並達到成功、愛、豐盛與喜悅
我們把它想成是某種必須學習去把自己匱乏與不值得的自我安置在裡頭的東西
而不是某種我們已掌握在手上的 自我的某一面向
因此 當我們思及人生目的時
我們會相信那是我們所沒有的美好、成功、豐盛與喜悅的人生
我們會相信那是我們不曾描繪的 我們將要步入的人生
但正是這樣的假設讓我們遠離生命目的
“What is my purpose?” is a question clients often ask me because they feel that if they were living their true purpose they would not be having the problems they currently experience. And yet their problems, whatever they are in that moment, are part of their purpose. We tend to look at life purpose as something fixed, exact and unchangeable, a mysterious path which will take all of our confidence and skill to master and achieve the success, love, abundance and joy we believe it holds. And we think it is something we must learn to fit our poor, undeserving selves into, instead of an aspect of ourselves that we have control over. So when we consider our life purpose, we believe it’s the wonderful, successful, abundant and joyful life that we don’t have and once we figure out what it is, that is what we will step into. But that assumption is what keeps us from understanding and living our purpose.
真相是 當提及生命目的時 我們不能不討論人生旅途的其他面向
生命旅途以「力量」展開 接著流進「潛力」與「可能性」之中
他們是相互關聯的
你想知道自己的生命目的嗎?
答案將會令你驚訝!
The truth is, we can’t talk about purpose without first discussing many other aspects of our journey, beginning with power, and then that flows into potential and possibility, because they are all related. Do you want to know what your purpose is? The answer might surprise you.
我們的生命目的首要、且最重要的目的是在療癒、學習、成長與轉化
那將使我們從較低能量振動中提升出來
把我們移轉到嶄新的目的層次中
每個人在這星球上都有個療癒的目的
當我們看見存在於生命道途每一階段的目的
我們便能夠完成自我療癒 並從這一層次進展到下一層次的目的中
並且這會發生在我們把「力量」、「潛力」與「可能性」等因素也加到「生命目的」的方程式之中時
Our life purpose is, first and foremost, healing, learning, growth and transformation, that will take us from the lower energetic vibrations that correspond to our healing, into higher ones, that move us into new levels of purpose. Everyone on the planet has a healing purpose. When we see our purpose as existing within each step of our life path, we can complete the healing and move from one level of purpose to another. And that happens when we factor the other “Ps” into the equation, potential, possibility and power.
每樣在我們生命中的事物都含有「潛力」
有著每一樣我們可以在生命中做下的決定
即使我們無法做出所有決定 它們仍對我們開放
因為它們是我們潛力場的一部份
我們潛力場含有我們想要的、希望的、夢想的每一樣事物
我們不會渴求那些不在我們潛力場中的事物
因為只有那些在潛力場中的種種 會存在於我們的意識之中
Everything in our life is a potential, which encompasses every choice that we can make in a lifetime. While we may not make all of them, they are available to us because they are part of our field of potential. I write about this in Ascending into Miracles but the short version is, our field of potential contains everything we could want, wish for or dream about. We will never ask for anything that is not part of our field of potential because only those things that are part of it will be part of our consciousness.
譬如 若你想要有一台摩托車
這會是你想法中的一部份 而你會把注意力放在上面
每一回摩托車閃過你的腦海時你便會想:「我真希望有一台」
若你的潛力場中沒有那些念頭的話 你恐怕會覺得摩托車是多麼吵雜與危險哪
每一樣在我們生命中的事物對我們而言就是「真」的
我們想要的都是於我們潛力場中的一部份
而那些我們甚至不會去想到的 便不會在潛力場之中
因此當我們在潛力場的振動之中時
我們不可能想要或渴求那些對我們而言不可能的
For example, if you are interested in having a motorcycle, they will be part of your thoughts and what you pay attention to. Every time a motorcycle passes by your thought will be ‘I wish I had one.’ If you don’t have a motorcycle in your field of potential you would probably think about how noisy or dangerous they are. This is true of everything in our life. What we want is part of our field of potential and what we don’t even think about is not. So we can never want or ask for something that is not possible for us, when we are at its vibration.
然而我們必須照看著「可能性」
因為潛力場中的可能性在我們能到達它的能量振動層級前 仍然是「可能性」
因此若要擁有這輛摩托車 你的信念與思維必須與「擁有它對你的意義」連結
它是一樣你有錢就能擁有的東西嗎?
它不也代表著自由? 或者它是輕浮與不負責任的?
你生命中的人們會反對你擁有一台嗎? 或者那對你無所謂?
那些快樂、成功的人們都擁有摩托車嗎?
或者摩托車屬於用錢愚蠢的、從事風險行為、或自私的人們?
一旦你能把自己放在「摩托車對你的意義」的振動層級
那麼摩托車將會出現在你生命中
Then we have to look at possibility because what is in our field of potential remains a possibility until we achieve its level of energetic vibration. So to have the motorcycle you want, your beliefs and thoughts must be aligned with what having one means to you. Is it something you feel you can have if you have enough money, does it represent freedom, or is it frivolous and irresponsible? Would the people in your life object if you had one and does that matter to you? Do happy, rich and successful people own motorcycles, or do they belong to people who spend their money foolishly, engage in risky behavior, or are selfish? Once you can put yourself in the energetic vibration of what that means to you, your motorcycle will appear in your life.
並且 最後且最重要的是「力量」這個存在於目的之中每個面向裡的元素
雖然我們可以徹底的忽視它
但我們都有那無窮盡的力量之源
那力量為我們的渴望添油加料、引爆我們的潛在能力、
讓我們的可能性生機勃勃、使得那些成果將我們推進到一個不同層級的目的之中
但我們即使有力量 我們也不經常使用它
我們反而常把自己視為對挑戰沒有掌握能力、虛弱無力的犧牲者
And lastly, but most importantly, power factors in every aspect of our purpose. Even though we can be completely unaware of it, we all have an unlimited source of power (this is the first Miracle Principle in my book, 30 Days to Everyday Miracles). And that power fuels our desire to explore our potential, energizes the possibilities and provides the completion and closure to propel us into a different level of purpose. But while we have the power we don’t always use it and instead, see ourselves as powerless, victims of our life purpose without any control over the challenges we experience as part of our life path.
我們的生命目的是時時地依據意願而轉變並能夠落實在自己的力量之中
我們將在每一樣所作所為之中滿全自己的目的
因為這是療癒旅程之中的一個無意識的面向
那些送給我們療癒、學習、成長、轉化之禮的人們與情境將會被我們所吸引
因為它們與同樣的能量層次共振
同類相吸 而對立者不會彼此吸引
每一位在我們生命中的人們反映著我們能量的某一個面向
並且分享著我們的療癒目的
我們的轉變回應著我們如何去同化這些能量、從經驗中學習、
並因而轉變到完滿的更大層級
且進展到一個不同的目的層次之中 若那是我們想要並準備好了的
Our life purpose is constantly shifting, according to our willingness and ability to be grounded in our power. We will fulfill our purpose in everything that we do, because that is an unconscious aspect of our healing journey. The people and situations who will give us the gift of healing, learning, growth and transformation will be attracted to us because they resonate with the same level of energy. Like really does attract like and opposites do not attract. Everyone in our life reflects an aspect of our energy and shares our healing purpose. The shift in our purpose corresponds to how we assimilate that energy, learn from the experience and then shift it into a greater level of fulfillment and move to a different level of purpose, if that is what we want and are ready for.
不論我們的挑戰會怎麼成形 我們的目的是去體驗與穿越它
但我們在體驗中卡住 並以為這是我們無法改變的的宿命與運氣
我們的選擇就在於把它視為令我們感到無力與困頓的固著之物
還是視為轉化的禮物
我們可以在每一刻於每一個問題之中發現這個答案
答案也許在當時不會很合理 也許看起來與問題並不穩合
但若我們把它們放在一起 並聚焦在我們的真實目的上
那將引導我們進行轉化 那麼答案將變得清晰而明顯
Whatever form our challenges might take, our purpose is to experience AND to overcome them. But we get stuck in the experience and think that this is our fate, our lot in life, to be at the level of energetic vibration and we cannot change. Our choice is to see this as confirmation that we really are powerless and stuck or to look for the gift of transformation. Within each moment we can find the answer to every question, they may not make sense at the time or not seem to fit together, but if we put them all together and stay focused on our true purpose, which leads us to transformation, the answers will become clear and the solution very apparent.
「你的人生目的是甚麼?」
確切地在你所在之處 並且把體驗用於個人的轉化之中
揚升是提高能量的過程
是轉變到新的能量振動層級 並且學習在更高次元體驗生命的過程
這會發生在我們以「潛力、可能性、力量」之眼觀看我們的生命目的之時
並且一次走向前一步 讓體驗圓滿我們的生命目的
如此我們便可提升到更高的能量振動層級去認知超越第三次元的生命狀態
創造新的生命目的層級 從不受限的可能性中擴展潛力與生活樣態
What’s your life purpose? To be exactly where you are and to use that experience for your personal transformation. Ascension is the process of raising our energy, shifting into new levels of energetic vibration and learning to experience life in higher dimensions. This happens when we view our purpose through the lens of potential, possibilities and power and then take each step, one at a time, to use our experience to fulfill our purpose so we can rise into ever higher levels of energetic vibration and know life beyond the third dimension, creating new levels of purpose, expanding our potential and living from the point of unlimited possibility.
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